How many times have we been told to "look at the big picture"? Seems to be a common phrase and one I hear way too often. I can pick apart the simplest of tasks. Lately it seems that the BIG picture has gotten in the way of my overall happiness. How is that? Let me explain.
Jeff and I have been going back-and-forth over schooling options for the girls. Both girls currently attend the school we have been a part of for seven years. LOVE the teachers and staff. Stella and Anna have literally gone from stroller-to-strolling the hallways of this building. So many memories have been made at this institution.
In the past few years, the dynamics of our little neighborhood school have changed. They have changed system-wide. Some changes are good while others are not so good. My eyes have been looking at our entire population of 400+ students.
It's not a race or income issue. Not at all. It has to do with the attitude and behavior of today's youth. Lack of respect for those in authority and NO respect for their peers. Very sad to watch this decline.
Anyway, back to the big picture. The girls have both experienced some run-ins with little punks. Girls, being the emotional creatures they are, take words and actions to heart. Many an afternoon have been spent with a glass of after-school lemonade and a box of tissues. Talking through whatever is troubling them. As parents, Jeff and I have been so tempted to uproot them both and walk away. Tempted to pull in all the offspring and keep them safe in our little nest. Sleepless nights and countless telephone calls and communications. Just give me the "word" and we were gone!
On Tuesday of this week, I was asked to photograph one of the groups that Stella participates in after school. Finalizing the yearbook and needing some student images. I went in and fulfilled my obligation. It was only when I started editing the photos, my eyes were opened. I give you "The Small Picture"
Yes, these kids all look silly and crazy. That’s because they ARE silly and crazy. By looking at this small group of kids, I see that my daughter is really happy and loving life at her school. Would it be fair to her and us to take this away from her? Thinking “No”.
Very important to stay in touch with what’s going on in the lives of our kids. No matter where you send them, stuff happens. Be it good or bad. There are no perfect schools or people. No matter what we like to tell ourselves.
We all have “those” days. Co-workers drive us nuts. Cashiers and customers cause us to nearly pull out all our hair. Rude drivers encountered during commutes raise the blood pressure by major points. It happens. We deal with it.
As much as I want to shelter the offspring, thinking a greater life lesson for them is to be there for them. We can walk each other through the rough patches. Celebrate in the good. Sometimes we must ZOOM in and look at the Small Picture! The big picture can be crazy and insane. Hand it over to the Lord! He has it all in His hands.
Happy Thursday! Blessings to all…
I love this post, Tonia. I completely agree. Jon and I have been through these moments a few times. I love you and your family.
Posted by: emilyelizabethstone | March 08, 2012 at 07:23 PM
Oh, and I was so glad to find your blog!
Posted by: emilyelizabethstone | March 08, 2012 at 07:24 PM
So... I just found your blog by accident and loved this post. If nothing else, I'm glad that M.O. can be a bright light in Miss S's week. We do love her and I'm looking forward to another year with her!
Posted by: Rollingstone | March 22, 2012 at 10:01 PM